In 2008 I wrote my daughter a letter before she graduated from high school. I gave it to her the day I said good-bye after moving her into the dorm. Today, I am compelled to write a letter to the young adults.
Dear Young Adults,
Because I believe lessons learned are meant to be shared, here it goes. My children expect nothing less! Being a young adult is difficult. It is probably one the most important, empowering, exciting, challenging, and vulnerable times of your life. Though these times will come with heartache and confusion, I want you to welcome these times; all of them, especially the challenging and vulnerable times. For these times will teach you the most about your authentic self. “What the heck is she talking about?” That’s probably the question you are asking yourself right now. Don’t worry; you’ll get the answers soon enough.
You, dear young adult, are more than likely blessed. You may have a brilliant mind that can someday eradicate cancer or come up the next product or device that will bring positive and productive change in our world. You with the loving, and caring heart and a compassionate soul may be the first person to communicate with the leaders of the world and be that change agent, that peace agent. You with a beautiful face, charismatic personality, and unbelievable talent may be that one person that has the opportunity to share your talents with the world and be that voice that is heard around that world. You young adult do not squander these blessings or take them for granted. Care for them with respect. Be grateful for all your blessings; thank God and the universe for them. Use your gifts to help others. Use your gifts to help yourself so that you can help others no matter how small you feel your gifts. For somewhere a child is looking at you and you could be that one person that makes a huge difference in that person’s life. You may be that one person that saves someone’s life with your words, your kindness. You are important. So, here’s some advice;
Do your best. And when your best doesn’t seem to be good enough or doesn’t feel like your best, realize that you can do better. Try! Try! Try! When you feel like you’ve failed and fallen flat on your face, get back up right away. The sooner you get up, the easier it is. If you need help getting back up, ask for it. Know your family and real friends are there to pick you up and carry you if you need it. You can handle anything as long as you remember to surrender the burdens to God. He will sustain you. He does sustain you.
Life can be confusing when you’re out in this big world somewhat on your own, and it comes with choices. You can go to bed when you want, go to class, skip class, or party, drink, do drugs have sex among other questionable activities. You young adult are somewhat on your own. Life hands you choices. And so far, you hopefully have made very smart ones. However, scientific data and college presidents all share a common knowledge: between the ages of eighteen and twenty-five, many young adults often make very foolish choices. I think those “foolish choices” sometimes follow people into their thirties. Unwise decisions can cost you, so, a piece of advice: make smart ones.
Choose to get enough sleep because if you don’t, you won’t want to get up and go to class or work in the morning. This could cost you a dream. Maybe, just maybe, this will be the day the professor reviews notes for the upcoming exam or your boss has an incredible opportunity for you. Eat healthy because if you don’t, you’ll gain weight and struggle to lose it the rest of your life. Exercise daily, even if it’s only for a half hour. It helps get rid of the negativism. Study hard and work hard; the payoff will be worth it.
Get involved in campus, community activities; you might find out something new about yourself. Meet new people. Try new things. Don’t be afraid to change your mind. You always have the excuse that you’re young.
Be true to yourself. Be selfish! Make your college about you, you, and you! Make work about you and what you want to accomplish for the good. Don’t feel guilty about it. This time may be one of the only times in your life you will get this opportunity.
Some last thoughts:
- Know you are loved
- Know others are proud of you.
- Know you can tell some people anything.
- Be true to yourself.
- Don’t drink or do drugs.
- If you drink MODERATION IS KEY.
- Always keep your dorm or house doors locked.
- Be careful in parking lots and on highways. There are a lot of weirdos out there.
- Don’t wash reds with whites.
- Be kind to your roommate.
- Don’t get caught up in drama.
- Keep your room clean.
- Eat healthy.
- Exercise your body.
- Challenge your mind.
- Pray; be thankful and forgiving.
- Have fun!
Change is difficult. The bottom line is that we all need to support each other, and we need to take care of our youth and friends. We need to help ourselves. If that means writing promises, putting personal commitments on paper, or writing a meaningful letter with pieces of advice, then do that. If you need professional support, get it. If you need a gym buddy, then get one. You’ll be helping your friend too. If you require more help, then get it. Whatever you do, be kind to you.
Life Plain & Simple